04 Apr The 5 Love Languages As They Apply To You and Your Pet
5 LOVE LANGUAGES AS IT APPLIES TO YOU AND YOUR PETS
Love Language?!? You might be thinking how does the language of love apply to my relationship with my pet? And how the heck am I suppose to know what my pet’s love language even is? Well it is actually quite simple. How do YOU give and receive love? The answer to this question pertains to not only you but also your pet’s primary love language.
Currently there are 5 Love Languages: Gift Giving, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, & Words of Affirmation. I have included a brief description on each language to help you determine which category you and thus your pet fall into. Please keep in mind we can experience all of the love languages but most of us have a primary and secondary love language.
Gift Giving– Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous – so would the absence of everyday thought and effort. Gifts are visual representations of love and are treasured greatly.
Quality Time– Is giving your undivided attention; togetherness as focused attention. This requires being active not just being present.This does not include just sitting next to each but instead engaging and being sincere.
Words of Affirmation– Verbal compliments (kind words) are powerful communicators of love and can be very encouraging. The need to feel appreciated by verbal expressions. Calling out something you see that’s positive helps shed light onto your gifts, talents, and abilities through kind words and tone.
Acts of Service– Doing things for others. This requires thought, planning, time, effort, and energy. If done with a positive spirit can be an expression of love.
Physical Touch– Feel secure by touch you create emotional closeness. This could be hand holding to hugs and cuddles or the simple enjoyment of being close and intimate. They can be implicit and require only a moment.
For example, my love languages are Quality Time and Acts of Service. This information has helped me to better understand how and when my dog is feeling loved. Yes he loves to play fetch but I find if I am listening to a pod cast or talking on the phone (not making eye contact or fully engaged) Wrigley is not quite enjoying his time with me. He tends to run up to trees looking for squirrels or will begin to fold his frisbee as to disengage from our time together. It is no longer Quality Time but rather exercise to him. As much as we prioritize physical health this is more about emotional connection. Another example pertaining to the love language: Acts of Service is Wrigley’s ability to contribute. Wrigley helps me by making sure other doggies in the house are not running up and down the stairs or pushing into the pantry (big No No’s at my house). For him it is not just about keeping the other pups in line or showing who is alpha, but rather him knowing he is truly helping me. For better of for worse he has taken on my job as his own. As I recognize this language I understand he’s not being an old man grouch but rather his way of expressing love.
No matter what your love language is, please keep an open mind and heart to the idea of expressing this language with your pet. Remember being curious and learning is what life is about and this applies for all living things!